A school principal in Singapore sent this letter to the parents before the exams..
The exams of your children are to start soon. I know you are all really anxious for your child to do well.
But, please do remember, amongst the students, who will be sitting for the exams, there is an artist, who doesn’t need to understand Maths.
There is an entrepreneur, who doesn’t care about History or English literature.
There’s a musician, whose Chemistry marks won’t matter.
There’s a sportsperson, whose physical fitness is more important than Physics..like Schooling
If your child does get top marks, that’s great! But, if he or she doesn’t, please don’t take away their self-confidence and dignity from them.
Tell them it’s OK, it’s just an exam! They are cut out for much bigger things in life.
Tell them, no matter what they score, you love them and will not judge them.
Please do this, and when you do, watch your children conquer the world. One exam or a low mark won’t take away their dreams and talent.
And please, do not think that doctors and engineers are the only happy people in the world.
With Warm Regards,
(Post from Facebook. Shared by some friends)
This is very timely since Ate’s exam week has just started. We tend to pressure our children at times because we want them to be the best. Who does not want their kids to excel,right? But we have to remember that kids like us, are not perfect. They may not have discovered their talents yet, that’s why we should not discourage them and make them feel bad just because they did not get a high score. It’s our words that can make or break them. I am guilty of putting so much pressure on my daughter during exams because I want her to maintain her honors. Last week, I reviewed her on all of her subjects and there were instances of me shouting at her because of wrong answers. Reading the post above made me think twice if I am doing the right thing to my daughter or I am just stressing her out.
Since children are just starting in life, their self-confidence depends on us. We are the ones responsible for boosting it. It’s okay to tell them that you are expecting a high grade but if they did not meet your expectation, do not dwell on it that much. It does not make them less of a person. In the end, it’s our unconditional love and positive encouragement that will push them to be the best that they can be.