You know that I love Kdramas but I don’t post anything about Korean series. Why? It’s because I am not good at writing film or series reviews *LOL* But I have to make an exception this time as the last Kdrama that I finished reflects the truth about parenting and marriage, topics that are close to my heart. This is not a review but my realizations. Without further ado, allow me to overshare my thoughts about Go Back Couple.
“Choi Ban Do and Ma Jin Joo are both 38-years-old and a married couple. Choi Ban Do has been burdened with being the breadwinner and Ma Jin Joo is a housewife with low self-esteem. Even though they loved each other when they married, they are now going to get divorced. They both regret marrying at such a young age. The couple travel through time and find themselves as 20-year-old university students, when they met for the first time”
1. ” Don’t marry a successful man, marry a good man.” – Choi Ban Do
I am pretty sure that if you are single, you talk about your ideal partner in life. When I was young, I told my best friend that I want to marry someone who’s rich and intelligent. Mayaman talaga yung nauna, di ba? Well, I ended up spending my life with someone who leads a simple life, struggled to make ends meet when we started living together and was not able to finish college because he worked day and night to send to me school. My husband was not born with a silver spoon in his mouth but his love is enough to make me feel like I am the richest woman in the world and the people around us regard him as a wonderful person. That’s enough for me.
2. “Only your mother can peel carrots to make juice for you”- Ma Jin Joo
Ah, our parents. Sometimes we take them for granted especially during our younger years. Only when I became a mom that I realized how unconditional a parent’s love is. As long as our parents are alive, always make them feel how loved they are. Visit and make time for them. There’s no such thing as too busy when it comes to spending time with your parents. Remember that as you grow up, they grow old, too.
3. Before you became parents, you were a spouse
It is true that when couples become too occupied with their roles to provide for the family and manage the household, they forget that they are spouses, too. P and I had been in that situation a couple of years ago. I was too focused on not dropping the ball for my promotion while he’s happy drinking and hanging out with his friends. We only had one mutual restday and there were times when we spent it separately- I read books and watched Kdramas while he frequented the gym and motorcycle shops. We never thought that we were falling apart. The kilig was no longer there and we did not feel affectionate of each other.
When you lose the romance in marriage, everyday will feel like a routine, an obligation, and it’s bad when you get used to it. I am not a perfect wife at all but having experienced an almost failed marriage, I must say that you should pay attention to your spouse. Aside from earning for your family or keeping the house clean, it is important that you and your partner spend time together.A quick date or once a month movie night means a lot. Tell her she’s beautiful. Make his favorite dish as a reward for a job well done. Give her surprise hugs and kisses. Thank him for helping you look after the kids. Never forget that you are not just parents, you are each other’s partner in life.
4. Marriage is not the end of a fairytale, it is just the start of a rollercoaster ride
My family witnessed two weddings last year. Both were overwhelming and I could not help but imagine myself walking down the aisle in the future. While others think that marriage is the “happily ever after”, it is actually the opposite. More challenges and roadblocks await the bride and groom but getting married is also the start of a blessed and fruitful years together.
5. Hold on to your marriage
Every family has their own story and I know that parents have their own reasons for living separately or ending their marriage. I guess what I am trying to say is, if both parties can still fix the misunderstanding, commit to change for the better and there’s no affair or violence involved, a marriage can be saved. I know there are wives who forgave their partners after having an affair and I salute their understanding and sacrifice for the love of their husband and family. I know some who went through this trial and survived and are much happier now. Pray for spouse and your marriage. Seek help if needed.
I cried several times while watching the series and it made me feel better when the lead characters got back together after their time travel in the past. I also liked how friendship and first love were highlighted in the story. Youth is wasted if you do not do silly things with your friends. Go Back Couple is not something that’s to die for but it’s absolutely a breath of fresh air. Which film or series gave you sudden realizations? Share so I can watch them, too 🙂
*Images grabbed from Google