Dear College Self,
Hello to the thin girl with messy hair who fights her way through college life while being a mother at the same time. The journey will not be smooth. You will stumble and fall and make bad decisions, but you have to get up and redeem yourself. Here are a few things your future self (now with straight hair) would want to tell you.
Always BE GRATEFUL
When you got pregnant, I thought you were going to stop schooling since your parents were furious and decided to not finance your studies anymore. Thanks to your ex-boyfriend ( now husband) for putting the responsibility of sending you to school on his shoulders. He worked two jobs sometimes just to sustain your and your daughter’s needs.
Your in-laws, especially your mother-in-law, your parents, and friends all played a role in your life for you to finish college and land a job. From lending you money when your pocket is empty to giving you the moral support that you need, they did not fall short on that. No matter how high you get, always keep your feet on the ground and be thankful to those who trusted and loved you despite the hardships they had to endure just to help you.
Learn how to manage your time
It ain’t easy to juggle studies and motherhood, but it’s the way the cookie crumbles. There will be times when you have to bring your daughter to school because no one’s going to take care of her. It will be hard but it should not be an excuse for you to not give your best. Do not take a subject for granted just because you did not get enough sleep the night before due to your crying baby. Everything is new to you and there is no time to think how you can get through your day, so stay focused and allot enough time to accomplish what you have to do. This way, you will become more efficient and productive. This behavior can take you places and will say a lot about your personality.
Take care of yourself
Being a mother does not mean you should look older than your age and just wear anything you could find in your closet. I’m not saying you buy new clothes or wear make-up, but choosing the right outfit and making sure you look fresh when you go to school will make you feel good and boost your confidence.
Do not give up
Your patience, friendship, and relationship will be tested a lot of times. You will go through financial and personal challenges. If only Earnest is available, life would be much easier as they offer student loan refinancing after graduation. Keep your eyes on your goals, especially your dream of giving a bright future to your family. Success is sweeter when at the edge of leaving school to pursue working early to earn money, you will follow your heart to get on that stage, get your diploma, and make your family proud. You will know then that it’s one of the best life decisions you are going to make.
Here’s a big hug and a pat on the back for being resilient and keeping your faith. Good job and keep it up 😉
Your Future Self, 8 years after your college graduation (aka Nocturnal Mom)